Heritage Album - If given a choice in your opinion should engagement and wedding bands be new or heirlooms?

If given a choice in your opinion should engagement and wedding bands be new or heirlooms?

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it all depends on what your engagement ring looks like. i think its very sweet to wear an heirloom though.
It depends. If you have a beautiful heirloom use that. Some people don't have any heirlooms, in that case they have to have something new.
New, unless if she likes the heirloom a whole lot.
New. As sweet as the idea of herilooms are, I would rather have something that's OURS, and not something that was someone else's.
Both have their appeal. Heirlooms should be simple and classy so people with diverse personalities can pull them off. Ideally, either my engagement ring or wedding ring would be an heirloom, but one would be new. I would like the opportunity to express that comes with a new ring.
Depending if you "have" a heirloom ring. If you don't have one, then a new one is what you would use.
New. Your marriage is or will be unique. No to marriages are the same and I think one may jinx themselves if they happen to wear a ring that came from a bad marriage. I guess you could say I am a little superstitious. If you have an heirloom, wear it on the other hand!
def heirloom if you have them - i have my gran ma's engagement ring - i would just like to add a simple small band to it to make it unique for me
Heirlooms are awesome, it shows responsibility on your part for taking care of them. It also shows that the person you are giving them to, means something to you. :)
It depends on the couple. Some people would appreciate the sentimental value of an heirloom, and others would want to have their very won little ring.
Wouldn't an opinion of mine already be 'my choice'?
I think heirlooms are especially meaningful. Something previously owned passed on to you is saying that you mean that much to them. Lots of people take heirlooms (either diamond or the setting) and use it to create something new. So you actually have something old with something new and more modern.
Personally, I would like either one. I love heirlooms. I have several pieces of grandma and granddaddy's things in my home. My mother has her moms wedding set and also has a set my dad bought her when they got married. She regularly wears both. If she is a sentimental person, go with the heirloom.
I would like an heirloom ring. It has much more sentiment.
it depends on the ring itself,and if the person receiving it likes it, i wouldnt want to receive a second hand wedding ring ,but an engament ring is different,
That depends solely on the couple. My fiance gave me an engagement ring belonged to his late mother. I knew I was getting a ring but not hers, so it is extra special to me. Many years after she received it, she had the diamonds remounted into another ring & it's really beautiful. I get so many compliments on it. I feel honored to be wearing it because my fiance wanted me to have it because he said his mother would have wanted me to have it. :)
for me it wouldnt matter...especially if there was certain sentiment behind the heirlooms.
I think heirlooms are great, but they should be in my opinion from relatives who have passed away so that your not taking grandmas wedding ring from her! I always loved my granny's engagement ring, but I'm not gonna go takin it from her....lol! I think if you have access to a nice heirloom piece with a history, then you should go for it, I didnt tho, so I'm gonna make history with my new ring for my future grandkids! :)
That's an entirely personal choice. In my case, my wedding ring is an heirloom (my mother's) and my engagement ring was brand new, so I've got one of each. That's just how things worked out. I love both rings and wouldn't trade either for anything. If you've got heirlooms available and you like them, then that's great. You save money and have something with real sentimental value. On the other hand, if you don't have them available or don't care for what heirlooms you have, then for goodness' sake get a new ring or have the old stones reset in a style of band you like better. This is a case where there is no 'better' or 'should'; there's what works for each couple.
I think both are beautiful, if there had been a family heir loom to pass down to me I would have been privileged and honoured to wear it, I wish I had my grandmother's ring as she had a very happy marriage to my grandfather, this has understandably been passed on to her daughter (my aunt) even though she does not wear it, and then it will go to my niece after her. I have got a new ring which I absolutely love, some people get a bit creeped out by "second hand" rings, personally I think they are full of character and history.
i think it depends on the person. i always thought that i wanted to buy a new wedding set, but then when i was helping pack my mother's things during a move, i came across this gorgeous antique wedding set that belonged to my great aunt, and i absolutely fell in love with it. the only thing was that the diamond on the engagement ring was very tiny (my fiance's words, not mine), so my fiance had a bigger diamond put on, and i absolutely adore it. i know that i got lucky with finding an heirloom that i love, i'm so glad i was in the right place at the right time to find it.
I think there are pros and cons to both. I like the idea of a family heirloom and all its history, but I also like the fact that my ring is mine alone, never having been worn by any other. This ring was created just for me, and from every ring in the world, my fiance selected this particular one. I'd be happy either way, I guess, as long as the prior owned of the heirloom ring had a happy marriage. If they didn't, I wouldn't want the ring no matter what.
If you have an heirloom set from a happy, long-lasting marriage, then I would prefer those. However, if your grandparents' marriage was frought with spousal abuse and alcoholism... I don't care how nice the set was, I wouldn't want to use those bands. Or, your divorced parents rings either. Wedding bands are highly symbolic items after all. I might wear one of these rings on my right hand, but I would not want to exchange these as a token of my love and faithfulness.
Mine is an heirloom, and it carries so much more meaning for me than a new one ever could. My fiance's mother died four years ago, before I met my fiance, so I never got to know her. Before she died, she left two rings that had been in her family, one for each unmarried son. My fiance's brother got married last year, and he gave one of the rings to his wife. I now have the other (an unusual art-deco style band with three diamonds, that used to belong to his mom's Aunt Lila). I now have a connection to his mom that is personal and that I would not have any other way.
My mom has been saving both her mother's engagement ring as well as her grandmother's engagement ring. When I get engaged, I'll have my choice of the two. I would much rather have one of those than a purchased ring! That said, I really dislike diamonds and most rings out there have diamonds in them so this is a better choice for me in that regard as well. I just really like the sentimentality of having my grandmother's or greatgrandmother's engagement ring!
I think heirloom bands can be a great idea, and sometimes a bad idea. The sentiment is great but I know all the "heirloom" bands in my family would be way too flashy and no my taste at all so I'm getting new.
I think it's nice for them to be new - and it's not because of the cost or anything, just because it's a new marriage. Heirlooms are beautiful, but I think they could be worn as dress rings.
I wear an heirloom ring. It was given to me by my grandmother before she passed. My husband had the setting modified to fit a new princess cut solitaire, so the ring is both old and new. It's very comforting to me that I am wearing a ring that my grandmother loved so much and has a strong 50 year marriage attached to it. I think it brings me luck. Unions don't generally last that long nowadays.
can be either or both
new