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Ihave met a nice man, but have just found out that hes got a criminal record.?

I have been seeing a man for around 2 months. He is really kind and gentle and he has been honest with me, he has a long criminal record but would like to change his life now. I am in a job where i work with the police and it would be really embarrassing if my work colleagues and family found out about his history. He lives near surrey and i live near Bristol, so it is a long distance relationship. Is there anywhere near Croydon like an outreach centre to help ex cons to get him on the straight and narrow. Maybe do some volunteering work for an organisation for a day a week, to give something back to the comminuty. I would like this person to make a good out of a bad situation .

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1. He's not nice then, because he is capable of being nasty by taking anti-social actions.
2. Good for him. I'm sure that anything is possible with the love of a good woman.
3. I would suggest giving him a chance. People can and do change. That said if it were me I'd still take precautions to protect myself. I'm from the US so I can't help you with the second part of your question. Take care, Duchess
4. It depends on what he did before. Even though it's not right, if he was a petty criminal, I'd give him a chance. On the other hand, if he butchered a family and ate their hamster, run for the hills. Seriously though, you could change this mans life for the better and it sounds like you like each other. Just stay on your toes.
5. in my experience people do not change you work with the police him a criminal...be care full
6. If research, history, and common sense have taught us anything it is that personality traits, while changing in adult hood, do not change that much. Or, perhaps you've heard the saying that a leopard can't change his spots? If he has a LONG record, then I would say that his chances of changing are very VERY slim. Many antisocials and even psychotics can appear charming and sweet in isolated, short bursts in order to accomplish their cons and get what they need. You are just asking for trouble in this case. Are you so desperate for love and affection that you feel this is your only and best option?? Do you have such a caretaker and enabler personality that you want to try to take this on and hope to "change him?" Come on...be smarter than this dear.